E 'then so difficult to understand others? It is not something spontaneous and natural? For what, for example, a professional "made for the understanding of others" (the psychologist)?
A great author, Antonio Alberto Semi, points out in his book the distinction between "easy-difficult" and "simple-complex". I'm not going to repeat it here, get there with a little 'for reflection and / or research. However, understanding is not that difficult but it is complex. To understand the need to respect people of very specific measures: First, we must listen persona che si vuole comprendere; poi, bisogna riflettere sulle diverse ipotesi che inevitabilmente ci si fa riguardo quanto ascoltato/osservato; infine, bisogna confrontare le ipotesi che via via ci si forma su quanto capito con le intenzioni/idee del parlante.
Più nei dettagli, "ascoltare" vuol dire mettere momentaneamente da parte le proprie idee e i propri giudizi su quanto pensiamo stia per essere detto, per poter far posto soltanto a quanto verrà effettivamente detto. Fatto questo, bisogna raccogliere le idee e riflettere su quanto si è ascoltato, cominciando dal saperlo ricapitolare e ripetere nella maniera più fedele possibile rispetto all'originale.
Ricapitolando e ripetendo fedelmente con l'interlocutore quanto heard you will see that they often add new things, so to speak, those who were buried in the folds of what was said. Again, summing up what has been said often, you will realize that you have the obscure points in what has just heard, the meanings not educated, or at least not fully educated. Ask the clarification on these points is essential here.
What is to follow these tips? Basically three things: first, to avoid misunderstandings. Second, allow the speaker to further tidy up his ideas with us. Third, avoid cues ourselves the answers to put too much in the middle with our preconceptions. What effect can
achieve with these measures?
the meantime, if you do not have a positive effect from the person at least will prevent the frustration of talking to the wall.
Then with a little 'practice in this way you can come very close to another person, the real meaning of what this is saying, in a word, you can understand it. And, as we know everyone has heard at least once understood, this is no small thing.
A great author, Antonio Alberto Semi, points out in his book the distinction between "easy-difficult" and "simple-complex". I'm not going to repeat it here, get there with a little 'for reflection and / or research. However, understanding is not that difficult but it is complex. To understand the need to respect people of very specific measures: First, we must listen persona che si vuole comprendere; poi, bisogna riflettere sulle diverse ipotesi che inevitabilmente ci si fa riguardo quanto ascoltato/osservato; infine, bisogna confrontare le ipotesi che via via ci si forma su quanto capito con le intenzioni/idee del parlante.
Più nei dettagli, "ascoltare" vuol dire mettere momentaneamente da parte le proprie idee e i propri giudizi su quanto pensiamo stia per essere detto, per poter far posto soltanto a quanto verrà effettivamente detto. Fatto questo, bisogna raccogliere le idee e riflettere su quanto si è ascoltato, cominciando dal saperlo ricapitolare e ripetere nella maniera più fedele possibile rispetto all'originale.
Ricapitolando e ripetendo fedelmente con l'interlocutore quanto heard you will see that they often add new things, so to speak, those who were buried in the folds of what was said. Again, summing up what has been said often, you will realize that you have the obscure points in what has just heard, the meanings not educated, or at least not fully educated. Ask the clarification on these points is essential here.
What is to follow these tips? Basically three things: first, to avoid misunderstandings. Second, allow the speaker to further tidy up his ideas with us. Third, avoid cues ourselves the answers to put too much in the middle with our preconceptions. What effect can
achieve with these measures?
the meantime, if you do not have a positive effect from the person at least will prevent the frustration of talking to the wall.
Then with a little 'practice in this way you can come very close to another person, the real meaning of what this is saying, in a word, you can understand it. And, as we know everyone has heard at least once understood, this is no small thing.
